When I was in junior high I was in love with Daniel Dillon. Daniel was amazing. He was tall and thin and had a scraggly little goatee with brown hair and brown eyes and a snaggletooth and he looked like Johnny Depp, if Johnny Depp had grown up in the sticks and wore the same shirt every day. I had been smitten with him for about a year before he spoke to me for the first time; I was sitting on a bench at school and he came over and said Can you do me a favor? Can you give me your hands? My heart stopped, and I knew that Eric had told him. Eric Shoemaker was my best friend, and Daniel was his best friend. Eric and I sat together for approximately four hours on the school bus every day, and I knew for certain that Eric had finally told Daniel about all of the dark miles spent two inches from each other in which I completely ignored Eric's beautiful face and perfect grammar and obsessed about what Daniel was reading in gym. He'd told him, oh man, and now was that moment that you simultaneously dread and long for, the one that you spent months manipulating yourself into and being horrified at the thought of. Daniel wanted to sit on the bench and hold my hand, which is how that works in junior high, and then we would go to the prom (the prom, years later with Daniel, being one of the most monumental evenings of my life, in which I witnessed for the first time an entire generation of adults rising up in unison to defeat and demolish and humiliate the spirit of one young man, that young man being Daniel in drag with earrings made out of roaches) and then we would get married and get the fuck out of Gold Hill. Can you give me your hands?
I put down my apple (ON the bench), and wiped my hands carefully on my jeans and handed them to Daniel. He said Eric was right. I said About what? He said You have really long fingernails and I have a really bad splinter; can you get this out?
I said Oh. Oh yeah, of course. Um. Here.
And then while I was taking the splinter out he said You're Eric's friend; the one that likes Darren. And I said That's me! And grinned like the big, fat idiot that I felt like.
A couple years later there was another boy, Matt Schrock. And then I was in love with Matt Schrock, and we were at boarding school together and it was this game, one day a year the boys are not allowed to talk to the girls and we each have a little round cardboard golden Hush button pinned to our chest, and we write our names on them carefully, and you cannot speak to anyone of the opposite gender. It's a huge deal to be the person left with your own button at the end of the day, but you also get other peoples' buttons if they talk to you first. So you could have your own button, and you could have the buttons of twenty people, and if you have someone else's button then the two of you are allowed to talk to each other, but not anyone else. In hindsight who the fuck thought that was a good idea? But at the time, super fun. I was in love with Matt; oh my god. And I had gone all day and still had my button, and I was going to win the shit out of that thing. And all I wanted was Matt's button. Matt's button, with his name on it that he'd written HIM SELF in blue sharpie, that had been pinned to the jacket that covered the shirt that TOUCHED his ACTUAL CHEST, and before dinner we were sitting in the lounge and he was sitting next to me, just us in the lounge, and we had never spoken to one another before. He knew I was in love with him, because it's boarding school, but we had never actually made eye contact. And he looked over at me and I kind of stared at him, and he said Can I ask you for a favor? And I knew this was it. See above, where I Knew This Was It. And I cleared my throat and smoothed my hair and said Yes. Because now, him having spoken to me, I was going to get his button and I could speak back. And he said Will you take my Hush button? And I grinned, like the happy, smitten sophomore that I was, and I said Yes; thank you. And he said Can you give it to Kourtney for me? If I walk up to her she'll take off.
I said Oh. Oh yeah, of course. No problem.
He said Thank you; I knew you'd do it! and he handed me the badge, and the safety pin was warm from his heat. And I grinned like the big, fat idiot that he knew I was.
I am currently smitten with a hockey player. Not in the way that I was when I was in junior high, or high school, or even as an immediate adult, but in the cool knowledge that he is a thing that I want and that I have things that he wants and that those things could mesh nicely, because I also don't want things he doesn't want. And I realized today that I am still sitting on that bench, and sitting in that lounge, and quietly waiting for him to recognize that yes, all of those things are real and possible and amazing, and being my best, brightest self and being exactly the right mixture of interested but not overbearing, available but not eager, and completely disgusted with myself every single day while he hands me things not meant for me and doesn't even notice that I am not fucking in love with Darren, and I never was.
I put down my apple (ON the bench), and wiped my hands carefully on my jeans and handed them to Daniel. He said Eric was right. I said About what? He said You have really long fingernails and I have a really bad splinter; can you get this out?
I said Oh. Oh yeah, of course. Um. Here.
And then while I was taking the splinter out he said You're Eric's friend; the one that likes Darren. And I said That's me! And grinned like the big, fat idiot that I felt like.
A couple years later there was another boy, Matt Schrock. And then I was in love with Matt Schrock, and we were at boarding school together and it was this game, one day a year the boys are not allowed to talk to the girls and we each have a little round cardboard golden Hush button pinned to our chest, and we write our names on them carefully, and you cannot speak to anyone of the opposite gender. It's a huge deal to be the person left with your own button at the end of the day, but you also get other peoples' buttons if they talk to you first. So you could have your own button, and you could have the buttons of twenty people, and if you have someone else's button then the two of you are allowed to talk to each other, but not anyone else. In hindsight who the fuck thought that was a good idea? But at the time, super fun. I was in love with Matt; oh my god. And I had gone all day and still had my button, and I was going to win the shit out of that thing. And all I wanted was Matt's button. Matt's button, with his name on it that he'd written HIM SELF in blue sharpie, that had been pinned to the jacket that covered the shirt that TOUCHED his ACTUAL CHEST, and before dinner we were sitting in the lounge and he was sitting next to me, just us in the lounge, and we had never spoken to one another before. He knew I was in love with him, because it's boarding school, but we had never actually made eye contact. And he looked over at me and I kind of stared at him, and he said Can I ask you for a favor? And I knew this was it. See above, where I Knew This Was It. And I cleared my throat and smoothed my hair and said Yes. Because now, him having spoken to me, I was going to get his button and I could speak back. And he said Will you take my Hush button? And I grinned, like the happy, smitten sophomore that I was, and I said Yes; thank you. And he said Can you give it to Kourtney for me? If I walk up to her she'll take off.
I said Oh. Oh yeah, of course. No problem.
He said Thank you; I knew you'd do it! and he handed me the badge, and the safety pin was warm from his heat. And I grinned like the big, fat idiot that he knew I was.
I am currently smitten with a hockey player. Not in the way that I was when I was in junior high, or high school, or even as an immediate adult, but in the cool knowledge that he is a thing that I want and that I have things that he wants and that those things could mesh nicely, because I also don't want things he doesn't want. And I realized today that I am still sitting on that bench, and sitting in that lounge, and quietly waiting for him to recognize that yes, all of those things are real and possible and amazing, and being my best, brightest self and being exactly the right mixture of interested but not overbearing, available but not eager, and completely disgusted with myself every single day while he hands me things not meant for me and doesn't even notice that I am not fucking in love with Darren, and I never was.